For most of us, life begins with our own cries and smiles of the spectators. Just as we open our eyes, the process of socialization begins. But as we grow, we realize that the most over shadowing influence is that of our friends and peer groups. 

To begin with, defining friends has never been so simple. Formally speaking, friends are a social group consisting of people who are equal in respects such as age, education etc.

Apart from the fact that the definition was “cut-copy-pasted” from wikipedia the other proof of its authenticity is our own friend circle. Looking around we can easily come across people who are like us in some or the other way. From perfect strangers to        soul-mates (literally speaking) the journey of friendship has its own acid tests. 

Undoubtedly, there are times when our friends can convince us to do things that surpass our imagination. From early childhood till one gets married, all the pinks and blues of life are directly or indirectly associated with our friends. Whoever says Friendship is easy has perhaps never had a true friend. When minds are naïve and the heart rules over head, it’s often tricky to understand and handle the mind-boggling in-group dynamics.

On close observation we may trace a blue print every group has. A leader, obvious or claimed is common to all groups. Then there is a spokesperson that does most of the talking, most of the times. Then there could be an introvert or shy member, who likes to sit and listen rather than speak and shout. And of course, the “khabari” who keeps the group informed and updated with the latest gossips!

However the influence and control of our friends and group at large, is so faint that we can’t distinguish between our choice and their choice. A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down. Though friends supply us with enthusiasm, support us when we need them, suggest us when we are confused but it is important that friendships don’t take a toll of our identity as an individual. To be a prisoner of someone’s opinions and views is never fruitful. Thus as friends we must be equals, equally strong and equally inclining on each other.